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We don’t want to be suspicious and un-trusting, but it comes with the territory when you’ve been through what we’ve been through.So it might seem stupid, and it might at times frustrate you, but we need you to show us that you aren’t going anywhere, and that we don’t have anything to worry about when you decide to have a night out with the girls.◊♦◊It seems that in almost any previous failed relationship, our trustworthiness has been brought into question by our partner.We already have to do that around our ex, in order to attempt to co-parent.You telling us that you trust us, means so much more to a dad who is constantly being ridiculed by our child’s other parent for our past infractions. There are nights that even a quickie is out of the question, because by the time homework is done and the dishwasher is loaded, there is no way in hell we are doing anything but falling into our bed and passing out.We just need you to reassure us that everything is going to work out.These days, mothers are almost always viewed by the courts and the general public as the most capable and nurturing parent.When we as dads take our children out in public, it is not uncommon to be asked where their mom is, or hear comments about us pulling “mommy duty” for the day.It’s almost as if people assume that if we have a penis, we are incapable of caring for a child for more than a couple hours without some kind of assistance or intervention from their mother.
You can talk to any single dad, and the odds are at one time or another, they have trusted too much and had that trust broken—either by their child’s mother, or by someone they dated after her.
At that point, after more than our share of failed relationships, we both genuinely thought we had found “the one.”◊♦◊The day I was granted equal custody of my daughter fell smack-dab right in the middle of our relationship, and looking back, it was a defining moment for us—the day I can pinpoint as the beginning of the end.
When I only had my daughter four days out of the month, it was easy to just plan our dates and adventures around those days.
The littlest thing that was said in passing, months before, is suddenly brought up again as a supposed glaring infraction on our part.
We want you to trust us so we aren’t always walking on eggshells.
So if you ever find yourself thinking that you are just tolerating our kids because we are a “package deal”, just leave. Being a single parent with a vindictive ex who would be willing to do anything to remove you from your child’s life, is pure hell. We are going to have arguments with our child’s mother and threats of going back to court.